Your little one looks up to you for EVERYTHING.
I mean, come on, they say the words they hear us say (usually the bad ones!), learn to eat the foods we eat, and treat people how they see us treat others.
As their “guides for life”, what we say to our kids and HOW we say it to them, can be life changing.
Something as simple as saying to your child, “You are perfect”, and changing that phrase into “You are enough”.
As parents, we all know that OUR child is perfect of course! I, for one, am TOTALLY guilty of this!
Although, deep down, we all know AS WELL, that no one is perfect.
So, changing around the WAY we say certain phrases to our children can help them build understanding and confidence for the moments that might not be so perfect.
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1. Building Self Confidence
We all want our children to have belief in themselves and their capabilities.
Without a doubt, building that foundation of self confidence early on can be the first stepping stone of the path in life.
Because, as we all know probably too well, is that we can tend to get wrapped up in what we may look like, sound like, or think like compared to others.
Helping our children to understand not everyone is the same and that they are perfect just the way THEY are.
Phrases to Help Build Self Confidence:
- “You are helpful.”
- “You are important.”
- “You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing.”
- “You are worth it.”
- “Don’t be afraid to be yourself.”
- “Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. “
- “You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.”
- “Not everyone will like you, and that is okay.”
Have you ever found yourself thinking your not enough or have not been doing enough? Well, most likely you are enough and have been doing enough, but may have held yourself up to someone else’s standard and well can kind of feel pretty crappy when you don’t reach that level of expectations. It’s not that you may have not made that level, but maybe not have made it just yet and so it can fell as though your not doing enough.
Don’t compare your chapter 3 of life to someone who may be on chapter 16.
Helping our little ones learn to understand this and their own self worth can improve their whole outlook on life and happiness!
I read self-confidence books to my little girl just as much as I read her the books about potty training or that hands are not for hitting!
Two amazing books that I have found are “Being Me” and “The Magic Inside You”. Both of these books have such a wonderful outline to them that can help build that inward happiness right from the beginning!
2. Achieving Learning Obstacles
Having goals and dreams are embedded in our DNA as humans.
Although, maybe we hadn’t achieved a goal or dream (YET!) because something difficult got in the way or veered us onto another path.
Well, if you’re anything like this Mama right here, I NEVER want to see my little ones EVER give up!
Seeing him or her achieving their goals and succeeding at their dreams, makes us Mama’s smile from the inside out. This usually comes with a possibility of crying as well.
Among many other things, helping our kiddos learn to overcome barriers and struggles is on the long list of a Mama’s to-do list.
In addition to helping our little ones understand that they CAN achieve anything they want, is also helping them understand that it is okay if they don’t get it right away. That overcoming obstacles and achieving any type of success will take time.
Phrases to Helping Achieve Learning Obstacles:
- “It’s good to be curious.”
- “We all make mistakes, it’s okay.”
- “I know you did your best.”
- “You can try again tomorrow.”
- “Your ideas are great.”
- “That’s a great question. Let’s figure out the answer together.”
- “Don’t give up.”
- “Never stop trying.”
There are SO MANY books for babies, toddlers and school grade children that actually go about these lines of overcoming obstacles. A few of my favorites are “Danny, The Dogs Dilemma“, “Lola Can’t Leap”, “Ivy The Very Determined Dog” and “No Biggie!”
They are all very well written books for the ages 1 to 6 that read about going through imaginary struggles and everyday obstacles.
I’ve ordered mine all through Amazon, because yes, I am addicted to Amazon and I am not sure if that will ever subside.
3. Showing Love Awareness
Being a Mama comes with many hats, two of them being loving and nuturing.
Children need to feel that sense of being loved unconditionally to grow into healthy, happy individuals that can learn to love themselves and others.
Personally, I can not stress saying these phrases to your children enough! I say them to my little girl every day, even when she’s sleeping!
Phrases to Help Show Love Awareness:
- “I’m grateful for you.”
- “I love being your mom.”
- “You make me proud.”
- “I appreciate you.”
- “I’m so glad you’re here.”
- “I’m listening.”
- “I trust you.”
- “I could never stop loving you.”
Once again, there are MANY MANY loving books to read to your children but here are my favorites so far!!
Repetition Is Key
Just as we repeat the “ABC’s”, a regular bedtime story, or a daily schedule, children thrive off of and begin to crave repetition.
Repetition is how children learn and grow in any area.
Hearing these phrases repetitively can help our children grow into amazing individuals (not that they aren’t already!!) who can overcome any obstacle in their path and have the level of confidence in themselves that could fuel a jet plane.
All while knowing the unconditional love of their Mama.
If you have a wonderful book that you absolutely love to build up your little one, please comment below and share with all us Mama’s!!
You got this Mama!